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1.  Make Eye Contact.

This first rule is very obvious but frequently forgotten.  If you don't look at the person while they're speaking, you give them the impression that you don't care what they say.  In essence, it appears as though you don't even care about them.  Simple.

2.  Don't Interrupt.

Let the person speak uninterrupted.  To master the art of listening you need to halt any good thoughts that come to mind and let the person say everything they need to say.  Often times people simply need someone to talk to, not someone who will butt in and give their own thoughts and opinions.  The goal is to shine the spotlight on them, not you.

3.  Practice "Active Listening".

The art of listening isn't simply about staying quiet 100% of the time, it's also about asking questions.  These questions are for clarification, or for further explanation so that you can fully understand what the speaker is telling you.  For instance, questions like these are brilliant: "Are you saying that _______",  "What I heard you say was ______",  "Did you mean that _______".

4.  Show You Understand.

Another great way to show that you understand what the person is telling you is to nod.  You can also make noises that show you're in tune with what the person is saying such as "yes", "yeah", "mhmm", "okay".  This seems trivial, but it's important to not behave like a zombie and demonstrate some interest and comprehension.   (read the full post)

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“Calibrate yourself to be fair”
“Forge your own path”
Pastor: “I don’t think God exists”
Etiquette: “HD, Smaych-D”

“Be defined by how you define

yourself, not what you’re born into.”

“Pull yourself and your own wishes and desires out of the equation.”

"...people very much value certainty and knowing and are uncomfortable saying that they don't know."

Don’t sweat the details... literally!

“By having a blind precess, we’re actually protecting ourselves from ourselves.”

Orchestra audition process to eliminate discrimination
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Trauma is our special legacy as sentient beings, creatures burdened with the knowledge of our own impermanence. -David Morris (embedded journalist)

Trauma:
The mechanics of loss
Excerpt:  ‘Quiet’ Susan Cain

“paying attention to something outside yourself is just enough to find yourself centered again.”

Excerpt:  ‘Stillness’ Pico Iyer

“You can’t really know what you alone think unless you are willing to be by yourself for a while”

The Way Of Spontaneity

The art and power of spontaneity, in ancient philosophy, in jazz, in everyday life. We’ll look at “Trying Not To Try,” the Chinese concept of “Wu-wei”, and the completely focused mental state of “flow.”

The Meaning of Human Existence

How did humanity originate and why does a species like ours exist on this planet? Do we have a special place, even a destiny in the universe? Where are we going, and perhaps, the most difficult question of all, "Why?"

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(1:27) “Out of Body” Body Schema: The science behind the out of body experience. FULL STORYhttp://www.radiolab.org/story/91527-out-of-body-roger/shapeimage_23_link_0
Patti Smith: “Just do good work”

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Science writer Jo Marchant says that the mind can play an important role in dealing with a variety of Health concerns, including pain, heart disease and depression.

A rigorous, skeptical, deeply reported look at the new science behind the mind's surprising ability to heal the body.

Helping The Mind Heal The Bodyhttp://www.npr.org/sections/health-shots/2016/01/26/464372009/how-meditation-placebos-and-virtual-reality-help-power-mind-over-bodyshapeimage_26_link_0
“Just do good work” Patti Smith: Don’t worry about earning a bunch of money. Be concerned about doing good work. Keep your name clean. Eventually your name will become it’s own currency. FULL STORYhttp://www.radiolab.org/story/91527-out-of-body-roger/shapeimage_28_link_0
‘Out of Body’ Experience Explainedhttp://www.radiolab.org/story/91527-out-of-body-roger/shapeimage_29_link_0

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"Heaven's Here On Earth"


You can look to the stars in search of the answers

Look for God and life on distant planets

Have your faith in the ever after

While each of us holds inside the map to the labyrinth

And heaven's here on earth


We are the spirit the collective conscience

We create the pain and the suffering and the beauty in this world

Heaven's here on earth


In our faith in humankind

In our respect for what is earthly

In our unfaltering belief in peace and love and understanding


I've seen and met angels wearing the disguise

Of ordinary people leading ordinary lives

Filled with love, compassion, forgiveness and sacrifice

Heaven's in our hearts


In our faith in humankind

In our respect for what is earthly

In our unfaltering belief in peace and love and understanding


Look around

Believe in what you see

The kingdom is at hand

The promised land is at your feet

We can and will become what we aspire to be

If Heaven's here on earth


If we have faith in humankind

And respect for what is earthly

And an unfaltering belief that truth is divinity

And heaven's here on earth


I've seen spirits

I've met angels

I've touched creations beautiful and wondrous

I've been places where I question all I think I know

But I believe, I believe, I believe this could be heaven


We are born inside the gates with the power to create life

And to take it away

The world is our temple

The world is our church

Heaven's here on earth


If we have faith in humankind

And respect for what is earthly

And an unfaltering belief

In peace and love and understanding

This could be heaven here on earth


Heaven's in our heart

“Heaven’s Here On Earth” - 
Tracey Chapman
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Robert H. Frank (@econnaturalist) is the Goldwin Smith Professor of Economics at Cornell University and author of Success and Luck: Good Fortune and the Myth of Meritocracy. The Cheat Sheet: As we strive to achieve success, there are natural limits on how hard we can work and how smart we can be. There's no denying that luck plays a part in this achievement. Understand the role of luck, talent, and hard work in the overall formula. Discover why we tend to minimize the role of luck in our success. Find out how to maximize our luck in life by way of context outside of talent and work. Learn new ways to look at the luck factor and turn it to our advantage.

Understand the role of luck

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Luck: The Winner’s Reason and the Losers Excuse

(Excerpt from the May 29, 2016 show where Adam criticizes the concept of luck and a Deadspin.com by Robert H. Frank from May 20, 2016)

Whether through misplaced humility or an inability to acknowledge one’s shortcomings, Luck is often the go-to explanation for the successful and the unsuccessful.

The Failure of Relying on Luck

Matt Dillahunty and Tracie Harris of The Atheist Experience discuss the futility of relying on luck and how doing so keeps one from realizing and cultivating their real potential.

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Equip yourself against the trappings

of the ego and align with the way.

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The sad fact is, many people live by a very different set of rules, and while most of these folks eventually self-destruct, they can inflict severe damage on our personal and professional lives in the process. Recounted here in real life historical examples and anecdotes.

The 48 Laws of Power

Even as one embarks on the task of taming one’s own ego, one must still contend with the advances of  the egomaniacal